It might be that you are looking at this website because your relationship is under significant stress or trauma right now and you are looking to talk to someone in a professional, confidential capacity.
Or it could be that you are both struggling to come to terms with issues around infidelity, betrayal, or perhaps the ending of a relationship.
It could be that mental health issues or addiction or a physical illness is putting enormous strain on yourselves and your family.
Together we can explore the patterns and cycles perhaps you have become stuck in together, and provide a map to help you recover, repair and heal from trauma and distress.
Your relationship will be the ‘client” and I will be aiming to create emotional safety in each session, helping you to make sense of what you are experiencing and feeling in order for you both to create a more secure emotional bond.
How I work:
With couples, I use an integrative approach incorporating Gestalt Psychotherapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).
EFT is an experiential attachment- based and systemic approach that focuses on accessing and healing emotions and strengthening relational bonds by facilitating new ways of talking and responding to significant others.
It is based on 50 years of research into bonding between mother and child and romantic bonds between adult partners (Adult Attachment theory)
The goals of EFT are to go within and process the emotions that drive each others habitual responses and facilitate heart to heart bonding conversations that re-define the relationship as safe and secure.
Emotion is the key agent of change as we are driven by the emotions we feel inside and intellectual insight isn’t sufficient in creating lasting change.
The role of an EFT Therapist is to help couples understand how their relationship has got stuck, and to guide them-for as long as they are willing to try- in how to repair it. The decision of whether to stay in a relationship always belongs to the couple.
I usually see couples for between 8-20 sessions.
EFT will help you both:
1. Understand Your strengths and the patterns that keep you stuck in negative cycles in your relationship.
2.Identify and explore the deeper emotions that drive the negative cycle
3.Help you both recognise the triggers that keep the cycle entrenched.
4.Help you to create a New, intimate relationship Bond and change your communication patterns to solve Problems and maintain intimacy.
90% of Couples who see a well trained EFT Couples Therapist experience improvement and 70% report full repair of their relationship.
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